Contrary to popular belief, a gym is one of the easier places to meet women. Knowing the underlying culture in a gym can lead a Guy In The Know to meeting and dating any single woman working out. Worst-case scenario: You may befriend a great girl who becomes a good friend — and even possibly meet her single friends.
One of the key aspects to picking up a girl in the gym is for you to be at the gym for the same reason: to actually train. If you go to the gym as a watering hole for your next conquest, you’ve screwed yourself from the word go. However, if you go to the gym to workout and focus on your own physical fitness, you will be surprised at the number of females that you are able to approach and engage with.
Understanding women at the gym
The Mute
Consider this woman one to avoid. She is there to exercise and will see your approaches as an annoyance. She’s there to workout, not to be bothered by your attempts at game. Leave her be.
Spot the mute: Her workout attire normally includes a baseball cap, earphones, an MP3 player, and water. She avoids eye contact and conversation with others. She looks at the floor as she moves from machine to machine.
The Chatterer
Here’s your target. The Chatterer is there to meet people and you’re there to meet her. She likes to socialize and converse. The Chatterer enjoys working out, hanging out with friends, checking her Facebook status, getting some male attention, and boosting her self-esteem.
Spot the chatterer: Being a social creature, she will normally gravitate to the water fountain before the exercise equipment. She’s there to talk more than to workout. Her training regimen is sporadic and her technique is probably in need of some work. This is a perfect chance to swoop in and give her some pointers. Consider even inviting her to train with you.
Not every man is a guy in the know like you. Some are oblivious to handling themselves and the etiquette that goes with a health club or gym. Review the do’s and don’ts below; they will lead you to achieving your five main objectives.
We’ll start with arousing your gym cutie first.
What will help Turn her on
Smile and speak. A simple “Hi” or “Hello” will do. Then leave her alone for the rest of the workout — unless she invites you to talk more or even workout with her. This creates mystery and separates you from the pack.
If you see a woman struggling with her weights, spot her. However, don’t use this as an opening to begin socializing and laying out your game — unless she invites you to more conversation.
Ask her for a spot; however, refrain from using this as a chance to ask for her phone number or e-mail — unless she gives it to you.
Be funny and charming: Avoid being too serious; this is a way to begin a conversation and to let her see something she’s not used to: a gentleman in the gym.
Wear the gear that suits your sport or you will look ignorant.
What is sure to Turn her off
Staring at women and following them around the gym is an instant turn-off. Workout stalker, you’re headed for an arrest.
Do not flex in front of the mirrors — you’ll look like a prima donna. Avoid machismo and its associated noises because it will sound as if all you need for an orgasm is yourself and your ego. (Either that or it will sound like you’re enduring torture.) Keep the noises just to the actual moments of exercise.
Be hygienic. No matter how good or confident you look, women detest men who are not clean and hygienic, even during a workout. If you sweat like the guilty, smell like a farm animal or leave puddles on the equipment and never wipe it down, jog your chances right out the window. Remember the power of deodorant before you begin working out.
It is acceptable to smell fresh, but do not overdo it. You are not a lace-and-doily 14th century prince, so do not smell better than your beautiful target in the gym. Do not bathe in cologne and do not exercise dressed like you are at the club.
Don’t comment or give compliments on body parts. Avoid statements along the lines of: “You have well-defined pecs”; “Great legs”; “You put a lot of work into your glutes”; or “It is obvious you workout because of your body.”
Don’t whistle or catcall. These types of actions will show you to be the jackass you are acting like. This is a gym, this is a classy in-shape beauty and you’re a grade-A Player. This is not a construction site.
Don’t touch a woman’s body in any way, even while helping her with the weights. If she is a stranger, make doubly sure you’re not touching her or violating her personal space.
Don’t mention anything related to sex or use any innuendos or double entendres. These are the quickest routes to a crashing conversation and making a girl very uncomfortable.
Don’t be impatient. Leading with questions about her relationship status is like dipping your game-winning hand in Texas Hold ‘Em. Get to know her first. You’ll quickly know if she is available or not.
Now that we’ve gone over rules and tips for the gym pickup, it is time to use them. Get ready for The guys in the know Pickup Training Schedule. Get your gear and grab your water bottle; the real workout just started.
Stage 1: Exploration (second day)
Use the first two days to establish a solid foundation of non-threat. She may suspect you’re interested, but it should never be painfully obvious. You’re a guy in the know, and your method is based on skill and a touch of subterfuge (smoothness not lies). Rather than go in for the instant conversation, fall back on confident eye contact, a smile and “Hello.” Then get to your workout.
Stage 2: Contact (third day)
With eye contact in place and her body language stating she’s comfortable, make the move. Do not appear hesitant or unsure. Before you move, however, do a quick hygiene check to make sure you’re as good as you know you can be.
Get a feel for how social she is by asking her opinion on a machine she is using. Even go as far to request a spot for yourself. If she opens up in full conversation, you have an opening. If she gives you one-word answers, take this reading seriously as a back-off.
When she is working out, do not hover while she does her sets. Move on to something else while she’s doing her exercises. This shows an impersonal approach and it takes you out of the obvious pickup category.
Stage 3: Icebreaker (fourth day)
At this time, begin to move things in a more personal direction. Become friendlier and employ your charm and icebreaking skills for good conversation.
Stage 4: Trust Development (two to three weeks)
If she works out at the same time every day and makes a point to walk by you during your workout, you have some interest building. She is more than likely finding you interesting and is awaiting another enjoyable encounter with you.
Develop your friendship during this stage. Read her and listen to her to determine if she’s available. Sincerely earn her trust, but do not get too personal as this can cement you in the harmless “good friend” category. Talk about exercise and also about things outside of your shared environment (the gym). Discuss friends, school, work, etc.; however, keep the conversation on issues of being healthy so your amorous intentions do not preview themselves too soon.
Stage 5: The Invitation
When (not if) you pick up the wanton weight lifter, do not kiss and tell. You’re a guy in the know and a gentleman. Plus, if things do not work out, keeping your romantic details between each other will make a breakup easier, more amicable and keep your reputation solid.
Believe this is too much work and time invested? You won’t feel this way when you have established a solid foundation with the women at the gym. You will have a base of potential pickups or potential hookups with their friends. Moving too fast will lead to a crash and burn, and you’ll see your lovely mistake every time you go to work out.
The Guys In The Know Express Approach
We all live very busy lives and so might the girl you are pursing at the gym. If you are in the situation where it’s near impossible to make all the steps above happen give this a try. The worst that will happen is you get to find out something about her. Make sure when you first get ready to work out walk by her and give her a smile with strong eye contact. Wait until you see her pause during her workout, maybe getting water, stretching, or getting ready to start her cardio. Approach her confidently without hesitation, but don’t get to close as to invade her personal space.
Tell her “I don’t want to interrupt your workout and this will just take a minute. My name is (Guy in the know) and I wanted to see if you wanted to grab a dink tomorrow night? (grab her number and continue with your workout)”
Quick, direct, and confident!
Do the work, do the workout, get the girl, and don’t hate The Guy In The Know.
The Ultimate Guide For Picking Up Women At The Gym
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