Are You Really In Love?

“How can I tell if I’m in love?” is a probably one of the most common question, despite how simple the answer may be. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love.

This can get confusing, especially when you are younger because romantic love is a relatively new concept for you and you don’t know what to expect. You are overwhelmed with all sorts of new feelings and social pressures and you have no idea what they all mean and if anyone else is experiencing the same thing.

What is love? What makes you want a romantic relationship with one person and not another? How does your heart choose a partner? These questions don’t have a definitive answer, but here is my attempt at breaking down the feeling of being in love.

You’re invested in his/her happiness: I’m not just talking about rooting for her while she is playing a sport. You’re really in love when you’re willing to put her happiness above your own, like skipping an event you were looking forward to and instead going to see her with soup when she is sick.

You want him/her to branch out: You want her to find challenges that will help her realize their potential and grow as a person. If you want her to stay the same and not have any adventures that will open someone up to the beauty of new experiences (that might not involve you), it’s not love, it’s just being needy.

You’re into all of him/her: In the beginning of a relationship/friendship, you’re almost always crazy-hot for each other. But if you’re just as hot for her even after you know about her excessive amount of flatulence, that’s a sign you might be in it for the long-haul.

You put it all on the line: If you’re not risking having your heart broken, you’re not giving this person a chance to know who you really are.

You’ve forgotten your ex: Ever since you met your new friend/ hookup buddy, however, the thought of getting back with your ex is the furthest thing from what’s going through your head. Come to think of it, you can barely remember what you found so great about your ex in the first place.
(You shouldn’t be thinking about your ex anyways, she is your EX after all)

You can’t stop thinking about him/her: She just pops into your head for no apparent reason, and you wonder if she is thinking about you half as much as you think about her. You wonder what they’re up to all the time and even consider calling them (but refrain from doing so in fear of looking overeager) at random times during the day or night just to hear the voice of whoever you can’t seem to get out of your head as of late. sights that you see and events you attend make you think of them and wish they were their to experience them with you. You’re out with your friends and you see something in a shop window and think about how much she or he would love that particular item. Something you wouldn’t normally look at twice.

If she is the last thing on your mind before you go to sleep and the first thing on your mind when you wake up– and you’ve even dreamed of them on a couple of occasions– then you don’t really even need to read on to know if you’re in love (but should anyway, ya know just to be sure).

You care: When you’re in love with someone, you want to know all about them: who they are inside, how they think, what makes them laugh. You truly care about her/him and their well-being

You love spending time with her/him: This one is pretty obvious. You look forward to seeing each other, and don’t care much about what the two of you will be doing. Furthermore, when you’re not together you miss each other and look forward to the next moment where you’ll see each other again.

If you have these ingredients it’s sure to be a long lasting relationship that, should be, able to over come most obstacles.

~Guys In The Know

Are You Really In Love?